How to Talk to Your Partner About Snoring
Does your partner snore and it’s interrupting your sleep at night?
Do you feel tired during the day as a result?
Have you been wondering how to talk to your partner about their snoring?
Well, the best time to approach your partner about their snoring is NOW. The problem isn’t going to magically disappear nor will it be resolved on its own.
Every night your partner’s snoring wakes you, it’s also damaging your health and throwing a wrench into the quality of your life.
The sooner the problem is addressed and resolved, the sooner you can start living better and sleeping peacefully. So, here are four quick tips on how to talk to your partner about snoring:
Be Calm and Understanding
You partner isn’t snoring on purpose.
You, of course, already know this; but it can be hard to remember when you’re tired, frustrated and wanting to communicate with them about this issue.
Snoring can interfere with your quality of life in a very real way and this can cause your nerves to get a little frayed, which is perfectly natural.
Your partner’s sleep probably isn’t high quality either, leaving them also very sleep-deprived and irritable. When neither of you is rested, having a constructive conversation regarding a sensitive matter can become a difficult task.
So, before you begin any conversation about snoring, try to get to a place where you feel completely calm. Keep in mind that your partner:
- Isn’t snoring on purpose.
- May not be aware of the impact their snoring is having on your life and your rest.
- May be embarrassed about their snoring.
Reminding yourself of all these before you start the conversation can help you focus on the real reason for bringing up the issue in the first place: the need for some resolution.
Present a Solution
Your partner’s first impulse, when you bring up this sensitive topic, might be to think you are complaining.
To avoid this potentially defensive behavior, strictly focus on the solution. This takes the weight of the conversation off their snoring and focuses on something positive – a resolution for you both to get better sleep.
Before beginning the conversation, compose a list of solutions and suggestions. When you’re outlining these, make a note of each of the following:
- What are the benefits?
- What are some of the drawbacks?
- Is there anything you can do to make the drawbacks easier to deal with?
- What’s most important to your partner?
- What steps are needed?
The more clarity each solution offers, the easier it is for you and your partner to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Again, this keeps the focus on how to make things better, rather than going in with an attack or criticism.
Remind Your Partner Why This is Important
This is more than a matter of preferences or minor complaints. Snoring can impair your quality of life and your partner’s quality of life.
Sleep deprivation can pose profound consequences to your health. From heart attack to stroke, years of poor-quality sleep could be damaging your health. The sooner you act, the sooner you can live a healthier life.
It’s true for both you and your partner. Not to mention all the smaller, day-to-day problems with interrupted sleep, which can include:
- Trouble concentrating
- Lack of focus
- Interpersonal problems at home and at work
And, all of these things deserve resolving.
Be Ready for Compromise
Snoring can be an embarrassing subject for many people. Be prepared for some resistance and be patient. You may find focusing on one step at a time is more effective for your situation, rather than overwhelming your partner with an entire process.
You may also need to compromise on the type of treatment for snoring, depending on the underlying causes and your partner’s preferences.
There are many types of snoring treatments out there. The best treatment is the one that works for the individual in question. You may find that figuring out what works for your partner is a process of trial and error.
Ultimately, your partner needs to decide on what treatment is most suitable.